We want to educate couples who are thinking about hiring a wedding planner! One of the best ways to do this is to clarify and debunk some of the most common myths about wedding planners and our services.
1. Wedding Planners Are The Same As Venue Coordinators
If you’re questioning hiring a wedding planner because the venue you booked already has a venue coordinator, then you need to know that these two people are not the same. Don’t get us wrong, many venues have very skilled event professionals that know exactly how to manage your celebration, but they are generally there to work on part of your event. Because they only work on the part of your event that happens at their property, they can’t always fully dive into your event overall. A wedding planner can completely focus on your wedding needs from start to finish. Depending on the service you select from Witt & Co Events, you would receive help developing your budget, creating a planning check list and day-of timeline, reviewing vendor contracts, and coordinating between all vendors throughout your wedding planning process!
2. Wedding Planners Always Get You Discounted Services
While it's true that we love to help you spend your money wisely, we can't always get you discounted services and products. Several professionals offer a vendor discount for our referral clients, but some do not. (No one wants to work with the planner who is always asking for money off and essentially de-valuing their work.) Their pricing is generally sound and is based on the time, talent, and products needed to fulfill their service. We try to find ways that might benefit both parties if referral discounts are not offered up front. For instance, if the vendor has the wedding date open and it's unlikely that they will book that date because it is in the near future, they might be flexible in their pricing in order to add one more booked date to their calendar. We also look for ways to add value to a service, without asking for money off. For example, in the past, rather than asking for a flat discount, we requested additional uplighting accents. The DJ obliged because they were going to be at the location regardless, and in the end, it made their service as the overall atmosphere of the wedding look that much better.
3. Wedding Planners Are Available 24/7
We love our clients and try to be available to them as much as we can at the drop of a hat. If you feel panicked, have urgent questions, or are going through a tough time, we are usually just a phone call away. It’s a great feeling to have our clients rely on us for their needs! But wedding planners are real, hard-working people and even we need some time for ourselves. We enjoy having time to spend with our family and for our own well-being. There isn’t a day where we aren’t thinking about someone’s wedding, but we do need to hang the “Do Not Disturb Sign” up once in awhile to focus on our personal lives.
4. Wedding Planners Are Over Priced
Did you know our service prices are often lower than many other vendors? As a planner, even a coordinator, we know intricate details about every. other. vendor. Not only do we create our own wedding details, we coordinate everyone else's. Our day starts when the first vendor arrives and will sometimes end after the party concludes. That's easily 16 hours on a wedding day. We monitor your budget and purchases and can help guide couples on different ways to create a similar effect without breaking the bank, or we can help clients re-allocate money from a different category while staying within reason to get you bother services. Therefore, saving you from over-spending and sometimes even through receiving partner/referral discounts.
5. Wedding Planners Won’t Work With Small Budget Weddings
This is so not true! There are some wedding planners who specialize in big budget affairs, but most of us work with a wide range of couples and wedding budgets. We help to create your perfect day with the budget you want!
6. Wedding Planners Only Recommend Vendors That Give "Kick-backs”
There are vendors out there who offer wedding planners incentives for sending them clients, but for us, that isn’t the case. We choose vendors specifically to fulfill our clients' needs. We typically like to recommend vendors we’ve worked with previously, so that we can speak to their services. Clients are never referred to vendors just so we can get additional money or gifts.
7. A Wedding Planner And Wedding Coordinator Are The Same Thing
While both roles mean we are there the day of the wedding to ensure that everything goes according to plan, it's what happens prior to the wedding day that makes a difference. A wedding planner can be as involved as you want them to be, from step one, to 6 months out. They'll work with you to be sure there is a cohesive plan between all aspects of the wedding design (For example, decor that fits with the venue, ensuring that flow of the reception space matches the number of guests.). They'll do all the vendor communicating for you so you don't have to make the phone calls and then wait for the replies. When you hire a wedding coordinator the planning is on you. The Wedding Coordinator will take the plans you have in place, review them for any detrimental issues shortly before the event, and then ensure that everything comes together on the day of the wedding.
Thinking about where to start with your wedding vows? Not sure how you are going to sum up all the promises, love, and other meaningful words for you partner into just a few sentences? We know it can seem overwhelming and frustrating (writers block is so annoying), but we’re here to help! Read our advice on when you should start writing your vows, how long they should be, and more!
1. When to Start – Don’t be that bride or groom who waits until the night before the wedding to throw together your wedding vows. The words you are promising to your love are so important and what you are going to be living by for your whole marriage. Put some real thought into what you are vowing to your significant other. We recommend having your vows written at least 3-5 weeks before your big day. That way you’ll be less stressed, have time to make edits if needed, and become comfortable reading them with enough practice. If you want to write them even earlier that’s fine too!
2. The Writing Process – You’ve got your vow book, pen, and are ready to begin writing! But, where do you even begin?
3. Final Moments – You have your vows written! YAY! And with plenty of time before your wedding day. Now is when you should practice saying them out loud. Doing this will help you feel more confident and comfortable when you have to say them on the big day. Try practicing in front of a mirror, in front of family or friends, and even recording yourself to see how well you do. Enough practice and you’ll be sure to nail those vows when it’s your turn to speak!
4. Keep Them A Secret – Wedding vows are a special gift of promises from you to your fiancé. So, try not to share them with one another beforehand. Expressing all your love and feelings the day of your wedding to your soon-to-be husband or wife with be a moment that you’ll both be able to cherish forever.
In the end, your vows should be your own. Let these promises come right from your heart. Decide what is most important to you and your significant other. Have fun writing these and reminiscing about your relationship and dreaming about what is yet to come with your marriage. Wedding vows don’t have to be perfect, they should be exactly what you want them to be.
First looks are trending in the wedding world! Couples can’t help but sneak-a-peak at each other before the ceremony and soak in a special moment for themselves. But, some couples opt for the traditional option of waiting until the ceremony doors open before seeing one another for the first time on their wedding day. This gives an overwhelming feeling of emotion as they take each other in. So, what’s your decision?
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First Look Pros
1. Lose the Nerves – If you’re a very emotional, jittery person then you may want to consider this option. Couples feel more at ease when they get to see each other before the ceremony. They’ll also be less distracted and can share an intimate moment together. Having some quiet time alone gives the couple a chance to reflect on the day and what’s to come. These moments together will be nice as you may not get many of these later on.
2. Special Gifts – If you decided to give each other gifts, this could be a great time to exchange them. Plus, you get to see your significant other’s reaction!
3. More Time – Having a first look allows you more time to take photos together before the ceremony instead of having to take them all after the ceremony. This will also give you more time to interact with your guests during cocktail hour.
First Look Cons
1. Lose the Special Moment at the Altar – The moment of excitement and nerves leading up to the ceremony, building the suspense of seeing one another, and having those church doors open UP to reveal you to your significant other is a moment couples cherish forever. Doing a first look before the ceremony could take just a bit of this emotion away.
2. Earlier Start – If you have a first look, then you’re going to have to get up earlier. This means hair and makeup will have to begin sooner and can cut into your time to relax before the ceremony. If you aren’t an early riser or prefer to not rush in the morning, then you may want to reconsider having a first look.
3. Could Make You More Nervous – Some couples feel that a first look eases their nerves, but for some it could do just the opposite. The pressure of having the perfect first look expression for your photographer, videographer, or even nearby wedding party watchers can be stressful and overwhelming.
Ultimately, we support whatever the couple decides to do. Doing a first look or waiting to see each other at the altar, either way the moment will be special for both of you!
** What if one of you wants a first look and the other doesn’t? Well we’ve thought of a couple compromise options for this as well so you and your sweetie can have the best of both worlds!
1. Parent / Wedding Party First Look – We’re a sucker for these types of first looks. When a parent, sibling, or best friend get to see you all dressed up for the first time on your wedding day the moment can be so magical.
2. First Look Without All Accessories – You can still do a first look, but by not having all your accessories on (veil, special jewelry, etc.) you can still surprise your significant other at the altar.
3. First Read / Touch – Have a special, intimate moment together before the ceremony without seeing each other by doing a first reading or touch. Go back to back or be around the corner from each other so you can talk, touch, and listen to each other before your wedding.
Hi there! I'm Jo, owner of Witt & Co. Events in Neenah, Wisconsin. Wife to my amazing husband and high school sweetheart Matt, mama to our sweet little James, (and fur-mama to Scarlett and Charlie!)