Thinking about where to start with your wedding vows? Not sure how you are going to sum up all the promises, love, and other meaningful words for you partner into just a few sentences? We know it can seem overwhelming and frustrating (writers block is so annoying), but we’re here to help! Read our advice on when you should start writing your vows, how long they should be, and more!
1. When to Start – Don’t be that bride or groom who waits until the night before the wedding to throw together your wedding vows. The words you are promising to your love are so important and what you are going to be living by for your whole marriage. Put some real thought into what you are vowing to your significant other. We recommend having your vows written at least 3-5 weeks before your big day. That way you’ll be less stressed, have time to make edits if needed, and become comfortable reading them with enough practice. If you want to write them even earlier that’s fine too!
2. The Writing Process – You’ve got your vow book, pen, and are ready to begin writing! But, where do you even begin?
3. Final Moments – You have your vows written! YAY! And with plenty of time before your wedding day. Now is when you should practice saying them out loud. Doing this will help you feel more confident and comfortable when you have to say them on the big day. Try practicing in front of a mirror, in front of family or friends, and even recording yourself to see how well you do. Enough practice and you’ll be sure to nail those vows when it’s your turn to speak!
4. Keep Them A Secret – Wedding vows are a special gift of promises from you to your fiancé. So, try not to share them with one another beforehand. Expressing all your love and feelings the day of your wedding to your soon-to-be husband or wife with be a moment that you’ll both be able to cherish forever.
In the end, your vows should be your own. Let these promises come right from your heart. Decide what is most important to you and your significant other. Have fun writing these and reminiscing about your relationship and dreaming about what is yet to come with your marriage. Wedding vows don’t have to be perfect, they should be exactly what you want them to be.
Hi there! I'm Jo, a certified wedding planner and the owner of Witt & Co. Events in Neenah, Wisconsin. I'm a wife to my amazing husband and high school sweetheart Matt, a mama to our sweet little James, (and a Fur-mama to Scarlett and Charlie!)